Balance the here and now with your plans for what’s to come. I always struggle with living in the moment and the sense of freedom that comes with it and planning for my future. I have many goals for my future including both professional and family goals, which is something else I will learn to balance.
In this process we must follow who we are. We will not always do things the same as someone else or think the same as someone else and that is OK. As long as you feel good in your gut that you’re doing what is right for you then you’re set. Things will work out. Maybe not immediately but things will work out in time.
I made this image with some words that resonate with me and a picture I took. I hope it can make you feel a little bit of peace inside too.
Feel the fear and do it anyway. But how? This is confusing right? Because if I’m scared how can I make myself do something, make a decision, etc.
Well facing change and making weighted decisions is never easy, but we must do it anyway. This past year I have made some of my first really real choices in my life. I can get really worked up about my decision and ask advice from others and talk about it out loud, but the thing is no one can make these decisions for me. I have to be the one to decide and I will be the one that needs to sleep at night with my choice so it doesn’t matter who agrees or disagrees because it’s my life and I’m taking ownership.
Sometimes we think to ourselves, I’ll choose whatever makes me happy. Simple enough right?
This guideline seems so easy to follow, but in reality happiness has so many aspects to it. And yes this statement makes me a “thinker” because I do know people who have a happy is happy attitude and they truly are so simple about it, but for me it’s a very dynamic involved question- what makes me happy?
I can’t completely answer this question, but what I do know is that the only thing really helping me through all of this is following my gut. And trust me when I say something just feels right or feels wrong.
My advice to myself and to others through a big transition is two things
1) Let ourselves cry if we need to cry
2) Maintain a positive mindset (or create one!)
We need to cry if it helps release some tension inside and bring out some of those negative/ fear based feelings, but after that we must use positive thinking to keep us in a balanced place and looking forward.
Let us look forward toward the good that will come into our lives and the good souls around us. Let us feel grateful for who we are and the opportunities we have. ( I feel hesitant to say this last part because I am lucky to even say the “opportunities we have”- because not everyone is given these opportunities. Additionally, this is a privilege to even discuss this in my free time on a blog post. More about this in another blog to come.)
Now to wrap things up.
- Follow your gut
- Know yourself
- Feel what you feel
- Be positive